I’ve had the wonderful opportunity to edit the film, Blind Devotion, for Jubilee Project and it was quite the journey. Overall, it was about a 7 month process. I really enjoyed editing this film because it was about a topic that really resonates with me. All my life, I’ve been learning little by little what true love is. This is such a deeply debated topic that can be an endless conversation, but I’ll express some of my thoughts anyway.
1. Love Is Hard Work
Love is hard work. It’s hard work that involves a lot of screwing up, forgiving, and reconciling. It involves a lot of taking your heart to places you normally don’t want to go in order to show the other your true self, warts and all. It involves admitting that you’re not actually all that perfect and trusting that the other will accept you anyway.
2. Love Creates a Safe Space
One of the most simple yet helpful advice I received from marriage counseling is we need to provide a safe space for each other to be ourselves. A space where when things get heated, we need to remind each other we are on the same side. The most important thing I desired from my wife is to feel accepted the way I am. I went through a lot of pressure growing up to be a certain way and what I craved the most was the freedom to be myself.
3. Love Manifests Itself Through Actions
Love is not felt, it is shown. We can only experience someone’s love by what they do. Dr. Gary Chapman writes about five ways we can express our love to others, which are through our acts of service, touch, gifts, quality time and words of affirmation. He coined these actions as “Love Languages”. Just like people can speak different languages, we show and receive love in different ways. I’ve always felt loved when people spend quality time with me and be engaged in good conversation. My wife on the other hand, feels most loved through acts of service.
At the end of the day, a loving relationship something you have to build together. It’s a very messy collaborative process, but the final product turns out beautiful if you put in the work.